The “Judge Your Neighbor Worksheet” is a wonderfully brilliant tool designed by Byron Katie that allows for the identifying of any stressful or painful thought. Once these thoughts are captured on paper, the four questions and turn-around are then applied as the gentle investigation of the mind’s projections onto others or the world.
Initially, the recommendation is to have the guidance of a facilitator for filling in a worksheet if you are new to “the work” or have not had the experience of filling in a JYN Worksheet using a “situation” or “moment in time” as you answer each question on the sheet.
What would work best is that you have a worksheet filled out prior to a session once you have the experience doing so. This would mean more time in a session for actually doing ” the work”. The simple instructions at the top will guide you through.
“A friend introduced me to The Work after watching me go through a difficult break up. He helped me complete a Judge Your Neighbor worksheet, and by the time I did the final turnaround, my “problem” had completely resolved. I was utterly amazed that an issue I spent two years working on in counseling could be eliminated in a matter of moments just by doing this simple JYNWorksheet.”
~A.L. United States
There are other approaches for identifying stressful thoughts, which can be explored in a session but this worksheet seems to be the most powerful.
The “Judge Your Neighbor Worksheet” is based on the idea that everything we think or feel about others is a projection of what is going on inside ourselves.
There is a beautiful opportunity when we allow our judgments of others to be there without censor, freeze them on paper in front of us, and take time to investigate. There are many messages from the larger culture, or from religious or spiritual cultures, that tell us it is not acceptable to judge.
The reality is that we do!
Usually, we do one of many things with these judgements. We may act them out through indulgence of blame, guilt tripping, arguing, etc., or we may resist these judgments by suppressing them, blaming ourselves, or feeling guilty, any of which only solidifies them or makes them much larger or more problematic than they once were. Therefore, unless we investigate these judgments, they may remain unresolved in our consciousness waiting for the light of truth and understanding.
It is a profoundly enlightening experience once it begins to dawn on us that we are doing, being and acting exactly as we are projecting others to be! This work is not for the faint of heart. One must be willing to see the truth!